It is hard to do almost anything when your spouse or partner is not supportive. Simply put, things are much more difficult to do when you do not have all hands on deck. Fortunately for me I have a husband that is amazing and is willing to do almost anything I ask of him. When it comes to prepping he is probably more into the whole idea than anyone else in the family. So when it comes to having the help necessary to pull off some serious tasks, he is always willing to throw in and make sure the job is done right.
However I know many preppers that are not as lucky as I am. Sometimes your spouse is just not that into whatever you are doing and I understand that. However prepping is a little different scenario than most activities. Prepping is all about survival and making sure that your family is taken care of in the times of crisis. It would seem natural that all spouses/partners would be interested in this. But the simple truth is that many of our readers are dealing with a spouse that thinks they are nuts when it comes to prepping.
Now to be fair there are many people I have met that can go a little overboard with prepping. We have a family friend that has dumped his entire retirement savings into dehydrated food and water storage. To me that is a borderline nuts. I understand the need to be prepared and the need to be ready but there comes a time when all you are doing is creating more work and more hardship.
It is my goal as a prepper to make sure that my family is protected, fed, watered, and ultimately able to survive a long-term survival scenario. However I also understand that there will come a time, no matter how well prepared we are, that we will run out of water, food, ammo, and many other supplies. That is natural. Trying to avoid this is an exercise in futility. So there are some things that we cut back on and that we simply try to plan around.
If you are having a hard time because your spouse isn’t supportive of your preps, then there are a few things you can do to try and help alleviate the stress of the situation.
- Don’t Poke The Bear
You know what will make your significant other angry. When my husband and I fuss, which is rare, we both know the right buttons to push to make sure that the argument goes the way we want it to go. Why would you continually do something that is going to cause hardship and frustration? I am not advocating that you simply stop prepping. I am however saying that there is a way to prep without it consuming all of your time and energy and money.
In most cases the spouse might not like something but they will go along with it for the sake of the relationship. Do not take this for granted. Be willing to concede some points and be willing to negotiate others. The idea here is to make everyone comfortable. Try to avoid confrontation whenever possible.
- Offer Real Tangible Facts
Many people have been told that preppers are insane and that they are wasting their time and money. The media has done a great job of this by trying to tell us that there is no way an EMP could ever hurt us or that we do not have to worry about certain disasters. The cold hard facts tell us otherwise. Simple facts can go a long way towards helping you teach your partner how important preparedness really is.
Thanks to some TV shows that portray preppers in a bad way, many people think we are all wearing camo and hunkering down for the apocalypse. The truth is that we are simply stocking materials for a time when they may or may not be needed. When you get right down to it, we are all going to need food and water so we are basically just making sure we have all that we need. If a crisis does not come then we are simply going to spend less time at the grocery store!
Make sure that you have offered the truth in the form of tangible facts. When the facts are presented in a non-biased or political way then most people will have there eyes opened to the truth. And that is the ultimate goal.
- Avoid Conspiracy Theories
I must admit that I have a penchant for conspiracy theories. I like them. I read them. Some of them I buy into. However that is not a healthy way to bring in a skeptic. If your spouse or partner is not buying into that portion of the conversation then simply avoid it. Start by focusing on the practical benefits of prepping and say the conspiracy theories for a much later date.
- Focus On Safety
Everyone appreciates safety and prepping is all about being safe and secure. Communicate this with your spouse and make sure that they are aware of just what you are trying to accomplish. Almost every partner or spouse is going to be in favor of being safe.
- Ask For Your Partner’s Opinion
Try asking for your partner’s input and genuinely listen to what he or she has to say. Your spouse is much more likely to be on board if he has a part in determining the motivation for prepping. By starting honest communication and taking time to listen, it could drastically change the atmosphere in both your home and your marriage.
Do you have a spouse that is unsupportive of your prepping habit? How do you handle this delicate issue?